Reunion 2015

Sue Man and George David hand out samosas.
Sue Man (organiser) and George David (Ebony Rocker) hand out samosas.
Some of the young ones who I did not know but now do.
Some of the young ones who I did not know but now do.

I went to my school’s reunion. It was open to any pupil or teacher from any year and held at the Juniper Berry, an historical pub in the centre of Southampton.  The Deanery School was the first multi-culltural school in the South outside London.  There are no Sotonians that I know living in my neighbourhood. In fact, I rarely hear people even speak in English during the long summers until some 42,000 students arrive for their autumn term.  So it was wonderful to meet up with so many diverse races of people not only speaking my language but with Southampton accents and local slang. Ages ranged from 40 to 80 years of age. We conversed all evening about our school traditions what people are doing now and those that have passed away.

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Jenny and Mr Muggridge (Technical Drawing & Careers)
Jenny and Mr Muggridge (Technical Drawing & Careers)

Whole families came to the reunion. Each had attend the school throughout their generation. Because it was small and because we all joined in out-of-school activities we were familiar with each other. Many married their childhood sweet-hearts.

The Deanery concentrated on the Individual, it honed in on our abilities and seemed to bring out the best of each one us, regardless of intelligence or ability to pass exams. The invisible curriculum was just as important to us as the main one. Many ex-pupils run their own businesses or work for companies that take them all over the world, particularly at sea – with so many stories from other countries it must have given us an appetite to travel.

 

Anne McCarthy MBE (a French teacher) and Jon
Anne McCarthy MBE (a French teacher) and Jon
Lady Sovereign & Jim Bull
Lady Sovereign & Jim Bull
Cleo and Robbie
Cleo and Robbie

 

The Deanery School, 1930 -1989

Continue below for the history of the rise and fall of The Deanery School….

The Deanery was a mixed-sex secondary school for the central community; ages 11-16 taught over 5 years. Pupils could leave school at the age of 15 when I attended, but changed to the age of 16 with an option of going on to a Further Education College until the age of 18.

It was the first multi-cultural school in the South outside of London. Southampton, being a port city, has always had variety of diverse communities, all of which are valued and respected, as I have explained in previous posts.

When I attended, white English people were in a minority at the school. In my year, there were a great many Hindus  Muslims, some Buddhists and a few Jewish, although the majority were Christian. The biggest cultural group of people were first to third generation Indian, not only from India but from what is now Pakistan, and other parts of Asia including places like Fiji and from Africa (North and South). In my year we also had first to third generations of Polish, Spanish, Italian, Irish, Chinese (from Vietnam and Hong Kong), West Indies: Jamaica, Barbados (white and black), Virgin Islands, Dutch, Cypriots (Turkish and Greek), Hungarians and Maltese. Nearly all could speak English before they started at the school.

Multi-cultural schools are quite normal in cities now, throughout Europe. But at that time they were rare and my school was a great fascination for others, especially for the media, politicians, sociologists and those with ‘melting pot’ theories. We filled out endless surveys and felt as though we were being watched. We had a strict school uniform that included options for turbans and loose leggings (to wear underneath a skirt). There were no hats or other items that covered the head or face as these were rarely seen in the community then and certainly not on children. In the Summer boys could wear shorts (but none did; they weren’t cool) and girls could wear any attire so long as it was red and white and modest.

As the number of educational subject increased, The Deanery expanded to many other sites spread out over central Southampton. The main site was Marsh Lane, next to St Mary’s Church, and was originally built to educate children from the workhouse. It is now a block of flats. As the community grew, the school expanded to the other half of the building that housed Southampton College of Art until 1970 when the art department moved to a new building in East Park (now part of Solent University). The school also took over The Central Boys School building in Argyle Road, Nicholstown, mainly for teaching the 4th and 5th years. Nissan huts were added to the playgrounds. I lived nearer to this site (which is now a Hindu temple). It had a separate dinner hall about a 10 minute walk away in Covelly Road, where, unlike the food at Marsh Lane, lunch time meals were cooked on the premises. Due to the many different religious beliefs regarding meat, there was a lovely choice on the menu. That was rare in England in my day. The meals were some of the best I had ever tried. In the evenings this hall operated as The Boys Club. Opened by famous crooner Frankie Vaughn, who had been an Italian immigrant. He supported boys clubs, which opened up all over England and Wales, to keep boys off the streets and away from gangs.

Another site was Latimer Street off Oxford Street (Now trendy apartments and restaurants). This is where all the domestic science and needlework took place. In my day this was only for girls, while boys did wood and metal work. Many subjects were segregated until the late 1970s. I had my first and only ever fight in the corridor here. My head was thrown against a row of coat pegs by the school bully. It was generally a peaceful school, so this caused an outrage. There was blood everywhere, I’ll never forget it.

There was also Site 4, which was an inner-city farm. Though I never went there and Cross House Hard where I learned not only sailing skills, but how to repair boats and sails.The school  had its own launch on the river. We also used the Council swimming pool (now the Grand Harbour Hotel) at the Town Quay, the sports centre north of the town, the cricket pitches in Hoglands Park and The Common for all sorts of sports activities.

It was normal to walk through the city for 2-3 miles between lessons. As traffic increased it became more dangerous. Later the school could not match the range of subjects that the new comprehensive schools could. The Deanery School was forced to close in 1989.

34 thoughts on “Reunion 2015

  1. I learnt to sail at Cross House as well. I think it was the first time I ever went across the city on my own. When I tell people that I learnt to sail at school they look at me as if I’m mad, but it seemed perfectly normal at the time.

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  2. I know! We once nearly crashed into the QE2! I am so glad I opted for that sport choice instead of netball -, for many of us it was our one and only chance of a life-time. Did you tell me what school you went to?

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  3. My grandmother went to The Deanery in the 1930s, so I was interested to read of its history. Out of interest, can I ask what years you attended? I’m wondering if the school was always as diverse as you mention, and when it started expanding to other sites.

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    • I was 69 to 74. I don’t think it was that mixed racially in your grandmother’s day. Though Southampton has always had people from Wales, Ireland and Scotland here to work on the ships. There were also a few Chinese and tots of Germans arrived during the Victorian times to open up bakeries. These left between the wars though. There are now two reunions a year – the last one was at Southampton Sports Centre, but I didn’t hear about it until it was too late. If your Grandmother is still alive perhaps you can find out on facebook for her.

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      • My grandmother started there in 1933, three years after it opened, so I assume she would have gone to school with lots of kids from the workhouse. I can find very little information about the school online (and haven’t found any pics!) so thanks again for your informative post! Sadly my grandmother died in 1994, so I’m unable to ask her about her experiences at the school.

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      • Are you living in Southampton? If not google topics such as Southampton St Mary’s and workhouse school. There is a facebook dedicated to The Deanery but I am not on facebook. There is another facebook site called Southampton Memories. You may like to post a question about your Grandmother on there? https://www.facebook.com/SouthamptonMemories. Meanwhile if I can help you with any other questions please ask

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      • Thanks – I posted on the Southampton Memories facebook group this afternoon but hadn’t seen The Deanery one, so I’ve just asked to join that too – hopefully I can get some more information from there. I don’t live in Southampton myself.

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  4. I just wanted to say that I also attended Deanery School back in the late 70’s and just recently learned from my BF, who also attended the same school, that there was a reunion last year. It would have been quite memorable for me to be part of that. In future I hope I can be added to the invitee list. I now reside in Vancouver, BC, Canada. My email: dksandhu27@gmail.com

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  5. Great to see so many familiar faces. I remember Robert Williams, Rene,Raymond and their sister whose
    Name also began with an R. Susan David and Joe Mann. Last time I saw Sue was in a takeaway in Woolston. Deanery school was a brilliant community and at the time was not appreciated by the pupils, myself included, but you know what, most of us have done well and are great ambassadors for not only Deanery but Southampton as well.

    Tony Finlay 1972-1976

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  6. Hello folks, I have just come across this page and can’t believe what a lovely surprise it was. I had been searching for information about The Deanery School and it’s closure in 1989 – so it’s the 30th anniversary this year. I am Sue Man (as was) now Warner and I have been involved in organising the reunions and before I forget, there is one on Friday, 20th September 2019 at The View Bar, Southampton Sports Centre, Thornhill Road SO16 7AY from 7.30pm onwards so we hope to see you all there. Please spread the word. By way of an update, we sadly lost Mr Mugridge, who passed away in December 2016 and Mrs Simpson, who passed away in March 2017. We have held a few more reunions since this one in 2015 and hope to continue to do so all the time there is enough interest. Mr Gregory who started the whole journey leading to the reunions by posting lots of old photos and remembering so many names and events on Facebook is also instrumental in persuading the teachers to come to the reunions (apparently some are wary of coming!!) and we are hopeful that many will be able to make it this time. I’ll be happy to post some pictures if there is still the interest.

    And now, ‘Southamptonoldlady’, I am intrigued as to who you are. Will you reveal yourself to me?

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  7. The ‘Southamptonoldlady’ forgot about the Brazilian pupils who arrived late 70s, early 80s. Vospers were building warships at Woolston for their navy. Lovely pupils and many are on the Deanery website.

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    • You are correct Bob – I had forgotten about them. Probably because I had left before they arrived. I am currently in touch with Fernando, one of our ex-pupils who is back in his home town of Rio de Janeiro. He his coming back to Southampton with his family for a short visit in the summer, so perhaps you might be interested in a meet up? I will post nearer the time on the school website.

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